What Is Family Constellations

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What Is Family Constellations

May 21, 2023May 21, 2023
by Eleni

What is Family Constellations
Family Constellations is a psycho-dynamic, somatic, and spiritual approach to resolving current problems by looking into family systems and ancestral lines. It explores hidden trans-generational family dynamics, traumas, secrets, and exclusions that can cause emotional entanglements and disruptive attachment patterns. The approach reveals how we carry our parents’ emotional burdens that often began generations before. Family Constellations takes us on a journey of handing back responsibility for emotional issues that did not begin with us, yet simultaneously honours our parents and ancestors for the life given to us through them. The healing process requires us to drop deeply into our bodies, and to notice what sensations arise, so that the body does the talking and not the rational, discursive mind. Family Constellation work requires us to put aside the conditioned narrative we have about our life and to enter the experience with a sense of openness and curiosity. It takes us to the core of an issue and for some, can rapidly resolve long held difficulties and traumas.

How does Family Constellations work?
Family Constellations are traditionally facilitated within a group workshop. They can also be facilitated in individual one-on-one sessions.
In a workshop, the Family Constellation facilitator creates an open space for whatever needs to come out to come out. If you are having your issue constellated, the facilitator will ask you to briefly describe an issue that is impacting you the most right now. The clearer you are about the issue, the deeper the constellation will go. The facilitator will then ask you to give some information about your current family, family of origin (parents) and both maternal and paternal grandparents. You will be asked about any major traumas in you family line such as death, divorce, migration, war, pregnancy loss and abuse. From the information you have given, the facilitator will decide who will be represented in your constellation.
You will be asked to choose people to represent both your family members and your issue. For example if your current issue is depression, the facilitator will ask you to chose a person to represent yourself, your mother, father, possibly grandparents and depression. You will then be asked to place those people and issue in relationship to yourself. These people are referred to as representatives. The facilitator will then guide the constellation based on feedback given by representatives on what they are feeling in the form of sensations in their body. You will then view your constellation unfold through the representatives. You will be asked to join the constellation when either you feel compelled to or when the facilitator thinks it’s appropriate for you to be included. You can choose to observe the entire constellation, however, it is a more powerful experience when you become part of it.
Individual Sessions
In individual sessions, you will use pieces of felt material to represent your family members and issue. The facilitator will ask you to place these on the floor in relationship to yourself and then you will be asked to step onto the pieces of felt material and nice what sensations arise in your body and how you feel. At times, the facilitator may also act as a representative. The whole constellation then unfolds according to what you are feeling and sensing in your body.

Am I ready for Family Constellation work?
Family Constellations can invoke intense psycho-emotional and somatic experiences, which for some, can be overwhelming. In particular, this can be the case for those people who have never engaged in any psycho-emotional, therapy, and/or somatic or spiritual healing techniques.
The strong sensations that can arise in the body can be triggering and overwhelming, as these are the physiological response to the emotional experience. This can sometimes induce deep sobbing, which can be a scary experience for some.

You may not be ready for Family Constellation work if:
-You have unacknowledged traumas or feelings about your parents, children or other family members
-Have never had your feelings validated
-Have never had the opportunity to express your story in a safe and self-reflective space
-You are easily emotionally overwhelmed and find it difficult to regulate your emotions during moments of intensity

What can it help me with?
Family Constellations works differently for everyone, but there are some common shifts that people can experience such as:
-Gaining insight into unspoken family trauma
-Gaining insight into the emotional impacts of your parents own childhood
-Expressing unspoken emotions
-Feeling your suppressed emotions
-Being released from family ‘dramas’
-Understanding how your unmet emotional needs affect your parenting and impact your children
-Accepting that sometimes, we do treat each of our children differently
-Expressing held back grief and loss as a result of a death
-Revealing how we live out our parents’ unmet desires and dreams and repress our own
-Recognise the cycle of abuse in our ancestral lines

Although Family Constellations is a brief therapeutic intervention, it is by no means a quick and only fix to long held trauma, emotional wounds and unmet needs.
It may take months, a year or many for the full effect of your constellation to unfold. Every person’s experience is different and depends on their own previous engagement in healing, as well as the level of validation received for their emotions. And the hardest and most fundamental one of all, is a person’t readiness to fully accept their parent’s emotions and parenting limitations. Perhaps even, what they so desperately needed but did not receive from their parents- emotional attunement, regulation and care.
Shifts you may notice include:
-Less emotional reactivity when interacting or triggered by family members that the constellation focussed on
-Ability to pause before responding when in the midst of an emotional reaction
-Ability to step back emotionally when feeling responsible for loved ones, including parents, children, partner’s etc.
-A softening towards parents in recognition that they did the best they could with what they had
-Less anger towards parents
-A stronger feeling that “I matter”
-Ability to open to future possibilities, no matter how small they are
-More understanding of your own children
-Accepting responsibility for your own shortcomings

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Purifying the 5 elements

February 24, 2021March 4, 2021
by Eleni

Have you ever done an elemental purification practice in yoga, but have never fully understood them? From a non-dual Tantrik perspective, the five elemenst of earth, water, fire, wind and space elements aren’t just aspects experienced in nature. They are considered phasic energies of pure light that press into this world to have visual appearance of reality arise,. And all of this happens within the space of he mind.
What the hell does all this mean????

One of the most pragmatic ways to understand the five elements is to think about the qualities of each and how they are expressing through our emotions and ways of being in the world. When we engage in elemental purification practices, we want to purposefully invoke the karmas of each element so that we can resolve them and transform.
Consider each element in the following way:

EARTH qualities: associated with the continuity of experience and the continuity of awareness, immobility, grounded
Purified earth: stability, persevering, security, confidence in your own psychology
Unpurified earth: subborness, inflexible, holding on to emotions, attachment, close mindedness.

WATER qualities, it is moist and binds things together, it gives cohesiveness.
Purified water: Generosity, compassion, sensuality, nourishment
Unpurified: not strong in conviction, neediness (way too much cohesion), greed and craving

FIRE qualities: Luminous, clarity, dynamism
Purified fire: optimisim, inspiration, enthusiasm, warmth in life, courageous
Unpurified: over ambitious, destructive, always angry, too abrasive, over joyous

WIND qualities: movement, strength, the mover of all elements
Purified wind: Powerful, animate, reciprocal, fast, being able to sense things
Unpurified: anxiety, paranoia, weakness, too much thinking

SPACE qualities: it holds and hosts everything that can arise within it, expansive, undisturbed
Purified space: equonimous, expansive, unconditional
Unpurified: lonely, dissociative, disorientation, confusion

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The Maha Mrityunjaya Mantra

January 10, 2020January 13, 2020
by Eleni

I’m deeply indebted to the beautiful work of Christopher Wallis, Tantrika and Sanskrit Scholar for this translation.

The Maha Mrityunjaya is the Death Conquering Mantra
This is a healing mantra for overcoming fear and pain, fear of death or death. It is found in the Rig Veda in the 7th mandala. It is approximately 4000 years old and is one of the oldest mantras in unbroken continuous use throughout the world and as such has accumulated a lot of devotional shakti.
Vedic mantras are also used in Tantra

Om tryambhakam yajamahe
Dugandhim pushtivardhanam
Urvarukamiva bandhanam
Mrytor muksiya m’amrotat

Maha Mritunjaya- is another name for Shiva who was a conqueror of fear. This form of Shiva is also known as Amrtesvara as taught in the Netratantra. It is not a specific form of Shiva from a Vedic point of view, but in the Tantrik lineage it gets associated with Amritesvara- Lord of Nectar. He holds a pot of nectar and his consort is Lakshimi- the Goddess of abundance. This form of Shiva is no longer worshipped.

Tryambhakam- the three-eyed lord- another name for Shiva
Yajamahe- we worship you
Sugandhim- who is fragrant and sweet smelling. This is referring to the fragrance of awake consciousness
Pustivardhanam- he who increases abundance, wellbeing and prosperity
Urvarukam- like a cucumber. This is referring to a cucumber being separated from its vine
Bandhanam- from bondage
Muksiya amritat- liberate us
Together this means: liberate us from bondage like a cucumber separated from its vine (you can’t reattach a cucumber to its vine once it’s picked.)

The Tantrik version includes a couple of bija mantras at the beginning and reads as such:
Om jum sauh tryambhakam yajamahe……..

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Psycho-therapy, spirituality & kundalini

September 7, 2019September 7, 2019
by Eleni

When we see ourself through the lens of our wounding, our challenging life experiences and our traumas, it’s hard to progress in our spiritual practice. Now the word trauma all too often gets thrown around very lightly, especially in spiritual circles. In my humble opinion, those that use the word in this sense are generally referring to the the challenges and ups and downs that most of us face in learning to navigate embodiment. When we refer to trauma in this way, we minimise the experience of those who have experienced on-going complex trauma and the deep impacts that these traumatic experiences leave.

Now either way, if we are stuck in seeing the world, people and even our own bodies as an unsafe place, then we will never be able to open up to the possibility of even experiencing the true goal of yoga- the experience of our own essence nature- free of any mental construct, poised in equanimity, peace, the ability to express compassion to self and others, and yes I’m gong to say it-joy!!!

As long as we stay stuck in the limiting stories about ourself and life, the stories that we have about others and even the stories that others have about us, then we inevitably stay stuck in the blame game and self-loathing- two big obstacles on the spiritual path!!!

The inability to look into our deep wounding and stories creates dis-integration of our whole self, and severely limits our capacity to open up to the deeper experience of the real yoga. Understanding how our challenging life experiences and traumas shape our beliefs and actions expands our awareness, which then allows us to see patterns and motivations that keep us stuck in the unintegrated state.

Psycho-therapy or any other form of healing practice that gently guides you to intentionally address these woundings and traumas in a safe way, is absolutely necessary on the spiritual path.

Some of you may be interested to know that in the oral practice tradition of Tantra, as I’m currently studying with Dharma Bodhi, there are two movements of Kundalini…yes two, not one as most people are taught! The first movement of kundalini is called “sva”- meaning self and is a downward movement into “the dark night of the soul”. This is where you go into deep reflection about your life, look at yourself with honesty, face your wounding or traumas and deeply question whether all there is too life is what you currently have?

On the spiritual path, this “dark night of the soul’ is an absolutely necessary path in order to get closer to your essence nature. The downward movement of kundalini hurts- it hurts like hell! And during times like this, you can’t really see yourself and life clearly. That’s why engaging in some time of therapy can be useful. If you want to know if you are progressing on the spiritual path, then observe your self carefully. Notice if there has been any changes in your character. Are you different in some way- big or small? You will notice these changes and other will too!

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Shanti, shanti shanti
Peace, peace, peace

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The Vijnana Bhairava Tantra

July 7, 2019June 28, 2019
by Eleni

The Vijnana Bhairava Tantra (VBT) first appeared around the 9th Century- 850 CE and is one of the main source texts from the Trika lineage of the classical Tantrik traditions. The author of the text is unknown, but modern day Sanskrit scholars say that it may have been written by a woman!

Vijnana means consciousness or insight and Bhairava is a fierce form of Shiva or consciousness that is present in all times and places. Rajanaka Ksemaraja, a very well known Tantrik master in his time wrote a commentary of the VBT and stated that Shiva is referred to as Bhairava because he makes us cry out in fear of remaining in the dream state after having an initial spiritual awakening. Due to this cry of longing to know your true nature, Shiva/Bhairava manifests in the radiant domain of our heart.

The VBT is played out as a dialogue between Bhairava/Shiva & Bhairavi/Shakti. Verses 1-23 contain the dialogue between Bhairava and Bhairavi. Verses 24-135 are practices and Verses 136 are insight verses.

Bhairavi is the feminine form and she is the state of complete fullness and intensification of being in presence. When consciousness has an intense immediacy, that’s Shakti! Shiva is pure open, spacious, free, empty, grounded consciousness. It pervades everything and this no-thingness is the ground of being.

The texts states that some people can enter the state of Shiva through Shakti, and teaches that by going into the intensity of an experience, you can enter pure presence and openness. The Vijnana Bhairava contains accessible practices that focus on both awareness cultivation and energy body work.

There are awareness cultivation techniques which are designed to alter the quality of your daily life so that you experience more centredness. When you abide in that centre you feel a still point and you feel more into the flow of life, then you start to act and speak from that centred scared space and not act and speak from the wounded ego, psychological mind.

The aim of the text is to lead us to a direct experience of our own Divine consciousness.

Our expanded awareness, where all labels, psychological understandings of ourselves and division melt away.

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Human Suffering & The Yogic Perspective

July 7, 2019June 27, 2019
by Eleni

One of my favourite ways to spend my time is to immerse myself in the spiritual teachings and philosophies of yoga. It’s what naturally happens when the heart awakens to the deeper truths of life!

I think we would all agree that human suffering is something that most of us have tried to understand at some point in life. Below is a brief outline of what creates human suffering based on classical non-dual Tantrik philosophy. In the Tantrik tradition, there are three aspects of reality that create suffering, referred to as the malas or impurities.

1. Anava-mala– the impurity of individuality. This relates to the human experience that yoga calls bondage and simply means being stuck in limited identification with the body and mind and with no connection to our original source of existence. In yoga, this source of existence is known by many names such as consciousness, awareness essence-nature, the core of our being, Goddess, God, the heart and ultimate reality. Use whatever term you like, but it is important to note that non-dual Tantra is a theistic philosophy- meaning that they saw this ultimate principle of reality/conscioussness as being innately Divine…hey….they believed in the Goddess/God. To digress a little, most of the Tantrik traditions were worshippers of the Divine Feminine. The tradition that I am the most connected to- the Trika lineage, workshipped Paradevi- the Supreme Goddess!
I recently came across a term to describe this reality or whatever term you prefer, as boundlessness. I love that so much!!!! Boundlessness….think about it….the true essence of your being is boundlessness. Boundlessness makes me feel so free and powerful- not powerful in a dominant way, but powerful in an unstoppable and unrestricted sense. Your true essence is BOUNDLESSNESS!!

Anava-mala refers to that very deep belief that we are insignificant, incomplete and unworthy. In his book Tantra Illuminated, Christopher Wallis notes that, “This belief is what gets in the way of you revering yourself as divine and as separate from God/Goddess”.

The original purpose of yoga was to find ways to uproot this belief and the way you could do it was to have a powerful abiding experience of purnata- completeness and fullness. On some level you have all had this experience of purnata- it’s what keeps drawing you back to your yoga mat or meditation seat over and over again!!!

2. Mayiya-mala- the impurity of differentiation. This is the form of ignorance that causes us to see everything and everybody separately from ourselves- me versus you, you versus, them, without seeing the underlying unity of our existence. What you see out there in the world through your conditioned filter and senses is separate and different from you. As Christopher Wallis notes in Tantra Illuminated, “True seeing is seeing all beings within yourself and yourself within all beings”. The capacity to do great things and the capacity to do bad things is present in all of us! When we see an ‘object of perception’ ( an object of perception is any tangible thing we can perceive through our senses as well as intangible thing like our feelings, emotions and thoughts) as separate from ourselves, we suffer.

3. Karma-mala- impurity of action. This refers to the bondage of karma. This mala is deeply related to the first two malas. The way we see ourselves, others and the world impacts how we relate and how we act in the world. These actions have repercussions that bind us to the cycle of karma. This cycle is also closely related to two of the five klesas of Patanjali Yoga, which we will explore in the next newsletter. Attachment refers to the belief that we need something outside of ourselves to experience purnata- fulfillment. It also relates to the way we cling to things and the inability to let things go- both good and bad things!

Aversion is the other end of the continuum and refers to the belief that we will never experience fulfillment unless we eliminate or avoid certain things. The more we do this, the more extreme our actions become and the more we perpetuate karma. It is impossible to be free of all karma repercussions because we are constantly acting in the world. One solution the Tantrikas came up with to be free of karma-mala was to simply stop being the person to whom the karma applied. This is no easy process and takes commitment, patience and time. The best way Christopher Wallis notes to overcome this mala is to work with it from the root as expressed in the following quote, again from his book, Tantra Illuminated, “Become thoroughly convinced that there is nothing outside yourself that need be added to make you complete nor is there anything that need be added to make you pure. This profound love and respect for your own being will, if achieved even in part, make it easier for you to perform actions without any selfish grasping motives and thus you will be free from karma”.

I hope these teachings deeply touch and transform your heart in the same way that they have transformed mine!

Om Shanti, Shanti, Shanti
Yes! Peace, Peace, Peace

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The five ‘Prana Vayus’ -Vital Airs for Pranayama

June 6, 2019June 8, 2019
by Eleni

So as we continue into the second month of exploring the practice of pranayama, let’s begin by exploring the five Prana Vayus. Knowledge of these five “Vital Airs” will be a pathway into understanding and enhancing pranayama. When the vayus are balanced and working harmoniously we experience vitality, energy, positivity and a sense of expansion on the body and mind level. Looking at each vayu individually will not only help you understand pranayama on a body and mind level, but also help you to understand how you can engage and work with these five vital energies in your asana practice.

Click here to watch this video to show you how to set up your blankets for supine pranayama

PRANA VAYU
This is the energy of inhalation and how the body and senses are powered and energised by how we receive the breath. Emotional resistances can often contribute to difficulties in taking a deep breath. Prana Vayu can be blocked when we have an inability to receive. Any asanas that centre around the chest and head work to enhance prana vayu.

APANA VAYU
This is the energy of how we release and expel the exhalation or what the body doesn’t need. It is located in the bowl of the pelvis below the navel and works in a direction opposite to prana vayu. Apana vayu is dual in its functionality, as it is both a releasing energy as well as a holding in energy. For example, apana vayu is responsible for childbirth, but also for keeping the baby in the womb.

If there is a deficiency in the exhalation than we have difficulty in ‘letting go and letting be’. When we are able to let go, we come back into the body and ourselves. This makes apana vayu a very grounding energy. In pranayama this can also be experienced as the pause at the end of the exhalation/rechaka kumbhaka. When we pause, we don’t get stuck in fear of when the next breath will come! Most standing and siting forward asanas engage apana vayu.

SAMANA VAYU
Samana vayu is the balance between prana and asana and is located at the navel- the centre of assimilation. Samana vayu is responsible for how our body absorbs, assimilates and transforms food into energy. Emotionally, samana vayu is associated with how well we can be with and absorb the present moment. What blocks our ability to simply be with what is present? Are we okay to be with this pranayama or asana and actually feel and absorb this experience. This is where our transformation of consciousness comes from. Kumbhaka or breath retention is associated deeply with samana vayu and is the key to transforming the experience of the breath and moving deeper into the energy of kundalini. The energy in the pause gets transformed into the energy of udana vayu. Asanas that deeply engage the abdominal region and deep twist- both standing and sitting engage samana vayu.

UDANA VAYU
Udana Vayu becomes the delivery systems of what becomes of samana vayu. It is associated with the exhalation and the upward movement. Samana vayu is energy what gets cultivated through practice and experience. The cultivation of udana vayu leads us to take control of our destiny rather than leaving it all to karma. It is best experienced through intentional directional breath and conscious breathing, demonstrated in pranayama practices such as ‘nadi shodhanam’ and Ujjayi. Udana vayu can get blocked when we lack will and motivation and are unable to express ourselves emotionally, and thus it can be a great impeder to our growth. Inverted asanas like shoulder-stand and headstand best engage udana vayu.

VYANA VAYU
Vyana vayu is a pervasive energy and helps to spread prana throughout our body, mind and spirit. It enables us to be better embodied and holds all parts of the body together. Traumatic experiences can often close us off to this, but allowing ourselves to feel into the energy that is running through our body helps us to re-inhabit it.
It also helps us to expand our awareness beyond ourselves as just physical beings.

Vyana vayu gives us a fully expanded sense of ourselves and holds the other vayus together. When vyana vayu is balanced we have a healthy sense of ourselves. Embracing who we are is overcoming our limitations. When we feel empowered by who we are and are open to growth and development, then vyana vayu is flowing optimally. All asanas engage this vayu.

Cultivate vyana vayu by being willing to be with your practice, yourself and with the experience of your breath. Once you nourish vyana vayu, you nourish all the others.

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The Practice of Pranayama

June 6, 2019September 7, 2019
by Eleni

Pranayama is a yoga practice that I believe does not get enough attention in the modern yoga world! I have been practising this art form for as long as I’ve been practising asana and that’s why I have decided that the next two months will be dedicated to this life giving practice. Click here to watch a video on some asanas to practice before starting your pranayama practice.

  In yoga there are various breathing practices that work to restore our physical, mental and emotional wellbeing, and if we are willing to explore deeper, they can also work for our spiritual liberation.

The paradox of breathing is that it is an automatic function of human existence, yet breathing is not that simple. There are many disorders in breathing patterns and much of it has to do with how our conscious waking life seeps into our unconscious life. This is when our ego mind comes into contact with the breath and our capacity to anticipate what happens next affects our breathing pattern, which then becomes part of our unconscious mind. So our breath is one way that we can work with the mind.
Yoga and pranayama can help us move into our unconscious mind, because the conscious movement of breath can trigger it. In some ways, pranayama is an invitation to undo and feel both unhelpful emotional patterns.

Every discomfort that comes up during pranayama practice is part of the process of becoming conscious. This includes being uncomfortable in your body, agitation, anxiety and dislike. Part of becoming conscious is to increase our awareness by reflecting on:
Where is it coming from?
Why is it coming up?
So be patient if you decide to include pranayama in your patience. Like asana it takes time!

Physical & Mental Benefits of Pranayama
Pranayama practice trains the respiratory system to function optimally by utilising the entire lungs and diaphragm and:

oxygenates the blood, which helps remove waste and toxins
this oxygenated blood improves blood circulation
more oxygen in the blood means more oxygen to muscles of the heart
this tones the nerves, brain spinal cord and cardiac muscles, maintaining their efficiency
the rhythmic use of the diaphragm and abdominal muscles in pranayama directly stimulates the peristaltic movement of the intestines, as well as promoting intestinal circulation. So it helps the intestine in its function of absorbing food materials and disposing of solid waste
the spleen just under the left diaphragm, acts as a filter to purify the circulating blood of worn out oxygen carrying red cells
Much of the splenic blood circulation is within lymphatic structures and is stimulated by pranayama
reduces breathing rate- pranayama practices help reduce breathing rates per minute from 15 breaths to 5-6 breaths and can help to lower blood pressure and quiet the nervous system
regular, rhythmic and prolonged breath develops inner focus, and calms the nervous system
Calms the mind becoming sensitive to the flow of breath, the subtlety of the breath, and finally the suspension of the breath, leads you to an awareness of the force behind the breath—prana.
becoming aware of prana as the thread that links you to deeper states of mental awareness, independent of the physical body and the senses. This is the beginning of mastering the mind and deepening the spiritual journey
helps unleash blockages in the main nadi’s (energy channels) – ida and pingala nadi, and helps to move prana into the central channel (sushmna nadi) in the subtle body (this is how it can work for your spiritual liberation- experientially revealing to you that you are Shakti- a powerful energetic and light body).

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Coping with grief

November 30, 2017March 4, 2019
by Eleni

Coping with grief. Grieving can be a very personal, private and lonely experience. This was mine when I lost my first son through stillbirth. I found it difficult to be around people who couldn’t handle my tears, sadness and need to endlessly talk about my baby. I found comfort and relief in those that could. As a counsellor and life long yoga student and teacher, I had the tools to draw on that allowed me to totally meet my experience exactly as it was. Part of this was accepting that there was no part of me in the initial stages wanting anything to do with yoga, or anything to do with the life I lived whilst pregnant or prior. I didn’t want any reminders. It was just too hard.

I just wanted to be alone. I was afraid of going out in fear of bumping into people that I knew and unleashing my relentless tears onto them. And worst of all was seeing pregnant women! I remember having thoughts of, “you know it could happen to you at any moment, don’t think you are safe, stillbirth is so unpredictable, you aren’t in control, you could loose your baby too- and I hope you do just so I know I’m not the only one”. I hated myself for having these thoughts. How “unyogic” of me!!! Practice ahimsa Eleni; in thought, speech and action”. This inner battle added to my already heavy heart. Trying to change the way I was feeling and thinking, no matter how “unyogic” it was of me, caused me more inner turmoil than I could handle.

I don’t know how or what shifted, but I eventually stopped trying to change my “unyogic” feelings and thoughts and finally allowed myself to have them. This was one way I started coping with grief. I allowed myself to be okay with not wanting to go out and being okay with not wanting to see other pregnant women and saying, no thank-you to yoga! Clouded by so much heartache, I had forgotten for a moment how to drop into the deeper wisdom of yoga.

When we give our hearts consent to meet our grief and our thoughts and feeling with total intimacy and without trying to change them the healing journey begins. Mine did, and this was the best way I found of coping with grief. The biggest guidance I can give if you have experienced such profound loss is to let your grief in all the way. Don’t worry about what thoughts, feelings or emotions you are having. They are all part of you and all part of what life is needing to express itself through you in that very intimate and present moment. This is the core of classical Tantra teachings! Let it all in- the good, the sad, and learn to be with the whole of reality.

Om Shanti